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To those objectified,

I don’t know who, or how many for that matter, take the time out of their days to read what I write. But I would like to believe that some of you reading, wherever you are, are women. It is to these women that I write what is to follow.

I am writing this because I feel like women are in the dark when it comes to the mindsets of men as every bit as we men are in as yours. Many of you in fact may spend a large portion of your precious time trying to sort out the intricate complexities of the mass complex of confusion commonly referred to as the Man’s “mind”. It is for the sake of shedding insight and because I genuinely care for my sisters in Christ that I write.

It is by no surprise to you to hear that men are visual creatures. Everything around us from the news to our Sunday services tells us this is so (this reason is why Victoria Secret and other companies advertise the way that they do). I’m sure it is by no surprise that you have heard the famous studies saying men think of sexual things (not only the act of sex but of anything relating to the opposite gender) roughly every 2 minutes. However, what may come to a shock to you is that we don’t want to.

Men love adventure, being the hero that slays the dragon. Men love romance, saving the damsel in distress not taking her back to his place for a night. Men love beauty, raw, powerful, and magnificently awe-striking beauty, not the beauty created by caked make-up and artificial perfume. Men love a lot of things, but what they do not love is being labeled as pigs. I do not think any man particularly enjoys the idea of being a womanizer. They may embrace it or pretend that they do but deep down men just want to be liked, to feel loved, and to find meaning amongst the meaningless. 

Will some guys act like pigs? Yes of course.  Are some guys pigs? Of course! 

But let me clarify: men are not pigs because they are constantly involved in dirty affairs; men are pigs because they are often dumb enough to fall into snares.

 As I said men are visual creatures, and it is often because of this that men fall victim to lustful thoughts or womanization. Few men wish to become so but before they realize the traps they have fallen into they are stuck in a perpetual cycle of sin and shame. What I find most odd though is that we get blamed for thinking about sex every 2 minutes, but no one ever stops to think because that’s what our society, and particularly girls project every 2 seconds. I don’t wish to cause a protest; I am just calling it like I see it. But girls, if you are really looking for Prince Charming, or someone who will treat you like a queen, you will not find him by wearing shorts with pockets hanging out or shirts that don’t adequately cover anything.

 Speaking from experience 9 times out of 10 any quality guy, worth taking home to your family, believes the phrase modest is hottest.

So ladies, for our sake I ask you to think twice about what image you portray by the clothes you wear.

 Remember as Sisters in Christ, you are a Princess AND a Daughter of The King, you deserve to be treated so.

Don’t fall into the same traps we do.

Let a man sweep you off your feet, not into his bed.

Fall in love with God first and let him so you the true Mr. McDreamy.

Merely in love,

Chris Gerac

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies… Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:10&30 NIV